I can’t believe I now have a 3 year old and a 4 month old. And yes I am doing these posts together, because I am lucky if I get any time to write anymore! Both boys are finally napping together right now, but we will see how long that lasts! Plus I have been a little distracted with Bachelorette/Bachelor in Paradise lately and a few good books during my free time! Anyways, here are the updates on my crazy, sweet boys!
Silas turned 3 on August 17th. We had a party the saturday before and he had a blast! We had it at the church gym and rented a bounce house out for a few hours. We invited lots of friends and family, and of course lots of little friends for Silas to play with. There are surprisingly quite a few families in this area with young kids, and we have been having lots of get togethers with them. The kids get together and get into all kinds of trouble :).
The party, while stressful to prepare for, went very well. All the kids had fun, Silas had a blast in the bounce house and got so many fun toys to play with from everyone. We are so thankful for wonderful family and friends in this area. Pate and I had a separate small party for him on his actual birthday. He got to open a few presents from us, and then we took a boat ride to dock n eat and had dinner. He loves boat rides and loves any place he can get good chicken fingers and some fruit.
Having a 3 year old is not that different from having a 2-1/2 year old except that I feel like I have less time to potty train him now, and he seems to get a little more ornery each day! It’s so true that toddler boys can be yelling one moment and giving you hugs and kisses the next. Silas is the sweetest boy I know at times, but also the most frustrating other times. We are slowly learning how to communicate things to him in a way that he understands and will listen to. I think we will be doing this for years to come. Parenting is always a learning process, and my toddler is teaching me new things every day.
I love seeing him learn and grow. He is so smart! I’m amazed by the things that come out of his mouth on a daily basis… mostly in a good way, but sometimes he does surprise us and we have to say, “where did he learn that?!”. He is always saying these big words that I have no idea where he learned or picked them up. He listens to everything and always asks questions. We have to be so careful what we say and do; he is definitely helping keep us in check these days!
We are sadly still working on potty training, and it feels like this has been the longest learning process for all of us. Part of me thinks we started way before he was ready and now he is backtracking. I try every day to take him potty numerous times, and he goes almost every time I take him. He always gets a treat for going as well. But just when I think we are making big strides, he has a big accident and it seems like we have to start all over again. I’m sure he will get the hang of it at some point, but we didn’t meet my 3 year goal and I am learning to be okay with not always meeting the goals we set. Silas is teaching me each day that you have to be flexible and patient with toddlers.
And now on to my sweet squishy cheeked 4 month old, Porter Willis. I feel like I have finally started to get the hang out taking care of two little ones. Porter has started to be a really good baby, especially compared to how he was in the beginning. My last post on here might have made it seem like he was doing great, but it was still very early and I think that was about the time that things took a turn for the worst.
When I started being able to drive again and we took Porter on his first longer car ride to Ft. Smith to see his great uncle we quickly realized that he did not like the car, or his car seat or a mixture of the two. It was a very rough 3 hour drive there and back and made me reluctant to take him anywhere after that. Around here we have to travel at least 15 miles to get anywhere, and from about week 3 till a few weeks ago, Porter would cry everywhere we went. It made for very stressful car rides, but we really tried not to let it change everything for us. We decided that if we let his crying rule our lives, than he would always be in control. We just hoped and prayed that he would grow out of the crying, and slowly but surely he has.
I take lots of trips to Springfield for doctors appointments and to see my family. Our last trip to Springfield on Saturday, which is about a 70 mile drive for us, Porter only cried about the last 10-15 minutes, and even then he was self soothing some and it wasn’t a full on cry.
On top of the crying though, Porter always wanted to be held during the day and we couldn’t get him to nap on his back. I finally decided to try him on his belly one day, even though it went against all the things I had read and been told by nurses and doctors. I know some might think we are terrible, but this changed everything for us. I was getting no sleep at night and no breaks during the day. The first time I put him on his belly he napped for 2 hours! We were nervous about it, but we ultimately decided that we had to trust that God would take care of our precious baby. And He always has! Porter is very good with moving his head around and his neck is very strong for his age. There are times that he has slept a long time and I worry about him and go check on him, but for the most part I sleep with ease now and only wake up for feedings.
Now that we know what Porter likes, he has started to come into his own and is a sweet, smiley, cuddly baby. He giggles and smiles when we tickle and play with him. He is very close to turning from his back to his belly. His favorite thing to do in the morning is to lay and stretch out on his playmat. This gives me time to get some stuff done in the morning and sometimes play with Silas. Just the past week he started wanting to put himself down for naps. He was really fighting me rocking him, so I just went and laid him down one day after rocking him for thirty minutes and having no luck of him falling asleep. I laid him down in his bed, he turned his head, stuck his thumb in his mouth and went right to sleep! He hasn’t gone down that easily by himself every time, but I can tell he still likes that better than me rocking him because he seemed to always fight rocking until he finally fell asleep.
Porter is a really good eater. We are still nursing, but he will take a bottle as well, thankfully. We are going on a trip for 5 days at the end of October and I am really nervous about it, but I feel better knowing he will take a bottle. He does not like pacifiers, but he loves to suck on his hands, especially his thumb! It’s adorable and so sweet.
His nickname right now is squishy because he has sweet chubby squishy cheeks that we love to kiss all day! We also call him bubby quite often and that’s what I usually call him when talking to Silas. Silas also calls him bubby and doesn’t like it when we call him squishy! Kids are so funny :).
We are so blessed to have 2 sweet, healthy, precious boys. We are honored that God chose us to be their parents and can’t wait to see what the future brings. I am trying to enjoy and appreciate every stage, but I am super excited for when Porter gets big enough to play with Silas. I am really looking forward to next summer when they will be 1 and 3 and we can go out on the boat and have pool time much more often without worrying about not being able to have Porter in the sun. We did get to have a fun pool day today and Porter napped for some of the time. Hopefully we will get a few more in before it gets too chilly. And hopefully I will be able to write more now that I am getting the hang of juggling two sweet little boys along with my wonderful husband :).